For the first time in my memory we had a serious, objective discussion.
I am a proponent of the view that families those living together as also those separated
geographically due to various reasons, must have goal oriented, objective, discussions
periodically to ensure life is meaningful. I believe this is required to be alive
and not just exist.
It started with discussion about need to renew visa for traveling
and if at all when, both renew and travel. One point led to the other and we reached
a point of discussing ‘interests in life’ remaining, which we should nurture and
pursue. Philosophically it was almost deciding ‘purpose of life’ remaining. Fortunately
both of us are full of vigor and have never been negative about life. Both have
pursued our own interests. It was first time we were discussing common interests.
It was a good thought for the day for me to explore. And I had
two assistant to look for knowledge, wisdom and develop our plans. I developed my
prompts, I considered, logically, as under:
1.
How do people demonstrate their ‘interests in life’?
2.
What are the factors which affect demonstration of
interest in one’s life?
3.
Considering the factors as may considered relevant
for two of us what interests should we pursue in the life that remains for fuilfilling
the same and living it and not just exist?
I sought information from public domain from two Chatbots and
found the same gathered by the Chinese tad better organized.
The information gathered is useful, I believe, for all of us
who want to live life and not just exist. We are going to develop goals based on
the wisdom shared by the Chatbot abd pursue, for sure. I have reproduced the details
with minor modifications, below for your review and comments:
“Interest in life can be demonstrated in various
ways, often reflecting a person's curiosity, engagement, and enthusiasm for
experiences, relationships, and personal growth. Here are some common ways
people show their interest in life:
1.
Curiosity and Learning: Actively seeking
knowledge, asking questions, and exploring new subjects or skills. This could
include reading, taking courses, or engaging in hobbies.
2.
Pursuit of Goals: Setting and working
toward personal or professional goals, whether they are short-term or
long-term, demonstrates a commitment to growth and achievement.
3.
Engagement with Others: Building and
maintaining meaningful relationships, showing empathy, and participating in
social activities reflect a connection to others and the world.
4.
Appreciation for Experiences: Enjoying
and savoring moments, whether through travel, art, nature, or simple daily
pleasures, shows an appreciation for life's richness.
5.
Resilience and Adaptability: Facing
challenges with a positive attitude and a willingness to adapt demonstrates a
belief in the value of overcoming obstacles.
6.
Creativity and Expression: Engaging in
creative activities like writing, painting, music, or other forms of
self-expression can reflect a deep engagement with life.
7.
Physical Activity: Participating in
sports, exercise, or outdoor activities often indicates a desire to stay active
and healthy, which is tied to enjoying life.
8.
Mindfulness and Reflection: Practicing
mindfulness, meditation, or self-reflection shows an interest in understanding
oneself and living intentionally.
9.
Helping Others: Volunteering, mentoring,
or supporting others in need reflects a sense of purpose and connection to the
broader community.
10. Openness
to New Experiences: Trying new things, whether it's food, travel, or
cultural activities, demonstrates a willingness to embrace life's diversity.
Ultimately, interest in life is deeply personal and can
manifest in countless ways, depending on an individual's values, passions, and
circumstances. It often involves a balance of self-discovery, connection with
others, and engagement with the world.”
“Interest in life is influenced by a wide range of
factors, both internal and external. These factors can shape how
individuals perceive, engage with, and derive meaning from their experiences.
Below is a comprehensive list of factors that can affect an individual's
interests in life:
1.
Personal Factors
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Age: Interests often evolve with age. For
example, younger individuals may prioritize exploration and social connections,
while older individuals may focus on stability, legacy, or reflection.
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Personality: Traits like openness,
extraversion, or introversion influence what people find engaging or
fulfilling.
-
Health: Physical and mental well-being
significantly impact energy levels, motivation, and the ability to pursue
interests.
-
Life Stage: Different stages (e.g.,
adolescence, parenthood, retirement) bring unique priorities and opportunities.
-
Values and Beliefs: Core values,
spirituality, or philosophical outlooks shape what individuals consider
meaningful.
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Emotional State: Mood, resilience, and
emotional health affect how people engage with life.
2.
Social and Relational Factors
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Relationships: Family, friends, and
romantic partners can inspire or limit interests. Supportive relationships
often encourage exploration, while toxic ones may stifle it.
-
Cultural Background: Cultural norms,
traditions, and expectations influence what individuals consider important or
enjoyable.
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Community and Social Circles: Peer groups
and communities can shape interests through shared activities and values.
-
Role Models: Inspirational figures or
mentors can spark new interests or passions.
3.
Environmental and External Factors
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Financial Independence: Economic
stability or constraints can determine access to resources, hobbies, and
opportunities.
-
Geographic Location: Access to nature,
urban amenities, or cultural institutions can shape interests.
-
Education and Exposure: Learning
opportunities and exposure to diverse ideas broaden interests.
-
Work Environment: Job satisfaction,
work-life balance, and career demands influence how people spend their time and
energy.
-
Technology: Access to technology can open
up new interests (e.g., gaming, online learning) or create distractions.
4.
Psychological and Cognitive Factors
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Curiosity: A natural inclination to
explore and learn drives interest in new experiences.
-
Motivation: Intrinsic (internal drive) or
extrinsic (external rewards) motivation affects what people pursue.
-
Self-Efficacy: Belief in one's ability to
succeed in a particular area can encourage or discourage interest.
-
Mindset: A growth mindset (belief in
improvement) fosters exploration, while a fixed mindset may limit it.
5.
Life Experiences
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Past Experiences: Positive or negative
experiences shape what individuals find enjoyable or avoid.
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Trauma or Adversity: Challenges can
either diminish interest in life or lead to resilience and new perspectives.
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Achievements and Failures: Successes can
boost confidence and interest, while failures may discourage or redirect focus.
6.
Societal and Global Influences
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Social Trends: Trends in fashion,
technology, or entertainment can shape interests.
-
Economic Conditions: Economic stability
or instability affects opportunities and priorities.
-
Political Climate: Societal issues or
political events can inspire activism or disengagement.
-
Global Events: Events like pandemics,
climate change, or technological advancements can shift collective and
individual interests.
7.
Biological and Genetic Factors
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Genetics: Innate predispositions may
influence personality traits and interests.
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Brain Chemistry: Neurotransmitters like
dopamine and serotonin affect motivation and enjoyment.
8.
Spiritual and Existential Factors
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Sense of Purpose: A clear sense of
meaning or purpose drives engagement with life.
-
Existential Questions: Reflections on
mortality, legacy, or the meaning of life can shape interests.
9.
Access to Resources
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Time: Availability of free time
influences the ability to pursue interests.
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Tools and Equipment: Access to materials,
technology, or facilities enables certain activities.
-
Support Systems: Emotional, financial, or
logistical support from others can facilitate exploration.
10. Personal
Agency and Autonomy
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Freedom of Choice: The ability to make
decisions about one's life fosters interest and engagement.
-
Self-Determination: Feeling in control of
one's life and goals enhances motivation.
Interplay of Factors
These factors often interact in complex ways. For example:
·
A financially independent person with strong
social support may have more freedom to explore interests.
·
Someone with health challenges may find their
interests limited but also discover new passions through adaptation.
Understanding these factors can help individuals reflect on
what drives their interests and how to cultivate a more fulfilling life. It
also highlights the importance of creating environments—both personal and
societal—that nurture curiosity, growth, and well-being.”
I was being selfish and wanted the Chatbot to help me develop
an action plan based on wisdom available in public domain otherwise difficult to
locate and customize for us. I added a prompt at this stage as under:
·
If you were to recommend to me what interests
should I pursue in my remaining life, considering that we are around 80 years
of age staying in India with both children having migrated to North America,
what information should you need to develop recommendations for us?
Based on areas in which the Chatbot wanted me to provide information
I gave following inputs to enable him develop recommended actionable.
1.
“Personal interests and passions: i have
enjoyed reading topic specific material, which serve purpose of gaining and
disseminating knowledge and wisdom to immediate circle of influence.
2.
Physical health and mobility: i am
physically fit and mobile to a great extent, my wife has limitation related
with climbing and long walks. I do enjoy short walks.
3.
Mental and emotional well-being: As I
said, I enjoy meaningful reading and cognitive skill development. I would like
to consider mindfulness if I find proper resource, but Journaling is a hobby. I
may not be too eager to step out of comfort zone.
4.
Social connections and community: I believe
in strong connections with extended families and immediate society. We do have
large family near by except own children, who as I said have migrated to North
America.
5.
Cultural and spiritual interests: Exploring
philosophy to an extent would interest me. I have developed special links with
a not-for-profit organization which I would like to be engaged with and
support.
6.
Financial and practical considerations: We
are adequately resourced for meeting normal expenses and have traveled to meet
children thrice in last 8 years. if this helps.
7.
Technology comfort: I am technology
savvy. My spouse is not averse to technology.
8.
Goals and legacy: I believe one of my
area of interest is to leave behind a family of wise children. This I believe
can be achieved by growing and disseminating the knowledge and wisdom.
9.
Relationship with my spouse: Whereas I am
more interested in cognition, my wife has interests in culinary practices. Both
are comfortable in family gatherings and perhaps enjoy attention received.
10. Connection
with children and grandchildren: Video
calls are the major links. We certainly like to remain connected more to be
assured the children are doing good, growing both professionally and
personally.
11. Environmental
preferences: We both are comfortable indoors and can appreciate not very
frequent outdoor activities. Places in nature not bustling with people are
calming.
12. Time
and energy availability: We have time provided new activities are of our
interest. We are contemplating what should we pursue to make remaining life
fulfilling.
I hope I have provided information which will help you
recommend interests in life, we may consider.”
The Chatbot recommended following:
“Thank you for providing such a detailed and thoughtful
response! Based on the information you’ve shared, I can now offer tailored
recommendations for interests and activities that align with your
preferences, values, and goals. These suggestions aim to help you and your
spouse lead a fulfilling and meaningful life while staying connected to your
family, community, and personal passions.
1.
Knowledge Sharing and Legacy Building
a.
Write a Family Wisdom Book: Compile your
life experiences, values, and wisdom into a book or journal for your children
and grandchildren. This could include stories, life lessons, and philosophical
reflections.
b.
Mentorship: Offer guidance to younger
family members or individuals in your community, sharing your knowledge and
insights.
c.
Blogging or Vlogging: Create a blog or
YouTube channel to share your thoughts on philosophy, life lessons, or topics
of interest. This can also help you connect with a wider audience.
2.
Engaging with the Not-for-Profit
Organization
a.
Volunteer Strategically: Use your
cognitive skills to help the organization with planning, strategy, or
knowledge-sharing initiatives.
b.
Workshops or Talks: Offer to conduct
workshops or talks on topics you’re knowledgeable about, benefiting the
organization and its members.
c.
Fundraising or Advocacy: Support the
organization’s mission by helping with fundraising efforts or advocating for
their cause.
3.
Intellectual and Cognitive Pursuits
a.
Philosophy Club: Start or join a
philosophy discussion group, either in person or online, to explore ideas and
engage in meaningful conversations.
b.
Online Courses: Enroll in courses on
platforms like Coursera or edX to deepen your knowledge in areas of interest,
such as philosophy, history, or psychology.
c.
Book Club: Form a book club with family,
friends, or community members to discuss topic-specific books and share
insights.
4.
Mindfulness and Emotional Well-being
a.
Guided Mindfulness Practices: Explore
mindfulness through apps like Headspace or Calm, or attend local mindfulness
workshops.
b.
Journaling for Reflection: Continue
journaling, but perhaps expand it to include reflections on gratitude, personal
growth, or philosophical ideas.
c.
Meditation: Practice meditation to
enhance mental clarity and emotional balance, either independently or with your
spouse.
5.
Family and Social Connections
a.
Family History Project: Document your
family’s history, including photos, stories, and milestones, to preserve your
legacy for future generations.
b.
Regular Video Calls: Schedule regular
video calls with your children and grandchildren to stay connected and share
updates.
c.
Culinary Collaboration: Collaborate with
your wife on cooking projects, combining her culinary skills with your interest
in sharing knowledge (e.g., creating a family recipe book).
6.
Community and Social Engagement
a.
Host Gatherings: Organize small family or
community gatherings to strengthen bonds and share wisdom.
b.
Support Local Initiatives: Get involved
in local community projects or initiatives that align with your values.
c.
Intergenerational Activities: Participate
in activities that bring together different age groups, such as storytelling
sessions or cultural events.
7.
Creative and Leisure Activities
a.
Reading and Writing: Continue reading
topic-specific material and consider writing articles, essays, or even a
memoir.
b.
Art or Music Appreciation: Explore Indian
classical music, art, or literature to deepen your cultural connection.
c.
Indoor Gardening: If you enjoy nature,
try indoor gardening or tending to potted plants, which can be calming and
rewarding.
8.
Travel and Exploration
a.
Local Travel: Explore serene,
less-crowded places in India that align with your preference for calm natural
environments.
b.
Visits to North America: Plan future
trips to visit your children and grandchildren, combining family time with
exploration of new places.
c.
Virtual Travel: Use technology to
virtually explore museums, historical sites, or cultural events around the
world.
9.
Technology and Connectivity
a.
Family Digital Archive: Create a shared
digital space (e.g., Google Drive or a family website) to store and share
family photos, videos, and documents.
b.
Online Communities: Join online forums or
groups related to your interests, such as philosophy, reading, or community
service.
c.
Teach Technology: Help your spouse or
others in your community become more comfortable with technology, fostering
connection and learning.
10. Spiritual
and Philosophical Exploration
a.
Study Sacred Texts: Dive deeper into
philosophical or spiritual texts that resonate with you, such as the
Upanishads, Bhagavad Gita, or works by modern philosophers.
b.
Reflect and Share: Write or discuss your
philosophical insights with family, friends, or like-minded individuals.
c.
Attend Lectures or Retreats: Participate
in lectures, webinars, or retreats focused on philosophy or spirituality.
11. Health
and Wellness
a.
Short Walks and Light Exercise: Continue
enjoying short walks and consider light exercises like yoga or tai chi to
maintain physical health.
b.
Mind-Body Practices: Explore practices
like pranayama (breathing exercises) or gentle stretching to enhance
well-being.
c.
Healthy Cooking: Collaborate with your
wife to explore healthy and traditional recipes, combining her culinary
interests with your focus on well-being.
12. Legacy
and Family Wisdom
a.
Family Wisdom Sessions: Host regular
family sessions (in person or via video call) to share your knowledge and
discuss important life topics.
b.
Create a Family Newsletter: Start a
monthly or quarterly newsletter to share updates, wisdom, and reflections with
your extended family.
c.
Record Life Lessons: Use audio or video
recordings to capture your thoughts and stories for future generations.
Final Thoughts
Your desire to grow, share wisdom, and leave a legacy is
truly inspiring. By combining your cognitive interests with your wife’s
culinary skills and your shared love for family and community, you can create a
fulfilling and balanced life. The key is to choose activities that bring
joy, meaning, and connection while aligning with your values and preferences.”
Since most of you know us, kindly suggest what should be our
shared interests in remaining life which will make the period more fulfilling, enjoyable
and worth the time!!!