Human relations

 

I was invited to a family function, am normally welcome in such functions and hence invited, at least that is what I believe.  I have experienced that as one enters the premises where the function is held, one starts with attendance marking and begins making notes, subconsciously most of the times, of who is present, who should one meet and who should be avoided, who is absent and develops strategies for finding out why some one or more who are conspicuous by absence, are missing?  This I believe is a normal human behaviour, I could be wrong.

I also went through the drill, found the one whom I have adored and started exchanging pleasantries first and views about what is happening next. Enquiries were made about why those who were conspicuous by their absence were missing. And one reason hit me. One very close relation of the host was missing because of strained relations, I was informed.

I believe Cognition is a normal human characteristic. It refers to mental processes involved in gaining knowledge and comprehension. Some of the many different cognitive processes include thinking, knowing, remembering, judging, and problem-solving. My hypothesis is human beings follow normal distribution curve when it represents behaviour. Barring those extreme outliers, normal human beings have the tendency to feel, observe, interpret, analyse and conclude before initiating or refrain from initiating actions. This happens not just when inputs received from sensory organs directly impacts self, but also when such inputs relate to other human beings. The velocity (speed and direction combined) of responses and reactions to outcomes of such cognitive processes depend on one’s emotional maturity. And over decades now, I seem to have developed emotional maturity.

The information about the “strained relations” set my thinking mill in motion. And the topic of enquiry and study was Human Relations. Just for information Harmony is one of my top five talent themes.

I have started my morning walk (motivation or compulsion to restart is another topic for evaluation and learning and will talk about it some other time) and during the walk today I organized my approach to study the subject. I have one additional help in searching for information and knowledge, a very effective technological tool. I will put the same to good use and collect and share information and knowledge on the subject, Human Relations, in following order:

•             Definition and types of Human Relations

•             Human Relations: Theories & Models

•             Human Relations: Development process

•             Harmony in Human Relations: Need and Benefits

•             Process of Straining Relations

•             Symptoms of strained Relations

•             Mending relations for self

•             Helping others mend relations

•             Skills required for Maintaining Harmony

•             Skill development tips.

See you all soon.